Ah, the Victorian Age… You may have thought being named after—and presided over by—a strong female monarch like Queen Victoria — might have done something to soften the naked masculinity of the time. This was the age of muscular Christianity, the age in which the western male came to dominate and subjugate through industry and empire; the age, in short, in which men were real men, women were real men; even the children were real men. But brute masculinity was only one side of the coin. The Victorians were also romantics, albeit in a rigidly regulated way. Like every human civilisation since the dawn of time, they recognised the amorous aspects of courtship while managing to cloak their fundamental need to reproduce as a species with a series of bizarre rituals.
Speed Dating In The 19th Century
The Dating Traditions During the Victorian Period | Synonym
Where would we be without romance? What was courtship and marriage like for our distant ancestors? Beginning with the ancient Greeks' recognition of the need to describe more than one kind of love, inventing the word eros to describe carnal love, and agape to mean a spiritual love, take a stroll back through romantic heritage with this timeline of romantic customs, dating rituals, and tokens of love. In ancient times, many of the first marriages were by capture, not choice — when there was a scarcity of nubile women, men raided other villages for wives. Frequently the tribe from which a warrior stole a bride would come looking for her, and it was necessary for the warrior and his new wife to go into hiding to avoid being discovered. According to an old French custom, as the moon went through all its phases the couple drank a brew called metheglin, which was made from honey. Hence, we get the word, honeymoon.
10 Ridiculous Victorian Etiquette Rules
There's no question that modern society expects everyone to have a general understanding of manners. But back in Victorian times, the gravity of propriety went much deeper than knowing the proper etiquette for shaking hands or which fork to use during the dessert course. I wanted to find out just how serious social norms were during the 19th century, so I picked up The Habits of Good Society: A Handbook of Etiquette for Ladies and Gentlemen , a popular English manual that dates back to After reading it through, I couldn't believe how compulsively detailed the expectations were. Manners dictated every faction of life to an almost laughable degree— from when it was acceptable to smoke to the protocol for sending out invitations.
Wow, I found this very entertaining! I particularly liked the part about the language of the fan. I have heard of it before but not in such detail!